Over this past weekend, a lot of things happened. I had thought-provoking engagements with some of my buddies, developed new approaches to facing my life, and also chose to change some of my approaches to life in its entirety.

In a casual informal talk, I hinted at some of the things I wished I could have done by now but which for one or two reasons have not been done. For every one point I raised, there is this guy who kept telling me that these things remain undone because it is not yet my time.

In the words of the Holy Book (Bible), I was being reminded that when the time is right, Him, the Lord will make all things right. No pressure, no haggling, no fight, no biting lips, no regrets because when the right time comes, all things will fall into place.

I happened to be watching a documentary about this British lady who tried smuggling drugs in Venezuela and was caught. At the time, she was with her 5-year-old daughter. She was found guilty and sentenced to 10 years in prison.

As she bade bye to her daughter, guilty drowned in her as she blamed herself for failing as a parent. Now her daughter was going to grow without the parental love she deserved. Her request to have her daughter transferred to the UK to be with her sister was granted and at last, she could breathe a sigh of relief.

However, as the sister kept sending her daughter progress reports and pictures of how she was growing, bitterness filled her soul. By the end of 2 or 3 years in prison, stress had wearied down. She embarked on abusing drugs now that she perceived herself as the greatest failure.

It is at this point that she decided to end her life. She wrote a letter and asked for forgiveness from her daughter for failing her. She then took crack (a smoked form of cocaine) and an overdose of prescription drugs and went to sleep hoping not to wake up the following day.

Two days later she woke up to the four walls in which she was held and realized she had died. Scientifically, the amount of dose she took ought to have killed her but it did not. She acknowledges that it was at that point she realized that perhaps it wasn’t yet her time.

She decided to be positive and focus on finishing her sentence and reuniting with her daughter and helping raise her from where she would find her. She stopped abusing drugs and to cut the long story short, she reunited with her daughter five years later because she managed to get out of jail after 5 years to serve an out of jail sentence because of behaving well and went ahead to travel to the UK where she happily reunited with her daughter.

The point I am driving is this, don’t be bitter and be filled with regrets because your mates are married. Don’t worry that you don’t drive that good car. Don’t stress out that you are unemployed. As long as you are doing your best and things are not forthcoming, it means that it is not yet your time.

I don’t mean you go relax and sit down and do nothing because it is not your time. Let me tell you that opportunities are not gotten by chance. They always favor the prepared. So, as you wait for your time be on the walk. Keep crawling.

It is said that always keep going. If you cannot fly, run. If you cannot run, walk. If you cannot walk then crawl but by all means keep going. Your time will come however long it takes. No wonder our hands have 5 fingers but they are not all equal.

As you about your life, don’t lose hope. Maybe things are not working as you expected. Maybe things are very hard and tight right now. Always remind yourself that it is just because it is not yet your time. When the right time comes, God says He will make all things right.

Geoffrey Ndege

Geoffrey Ndege

Geoffrey Ndege is the Editor and topical contributor for the Daily Focus. He writes in the areas of Science, Manufacturing, Technology, Innovation, Governance, Management and International Emerging Issues. For featuring, promotions or support, reach out to us at
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