Family is very central in each of our lives. A good family is like a good breakfast that keeps you smiling all the day long. It is the good family that motivates you to carry on amid the turmoil of our daily life. One senior former executive in the business world likened family to a very delicate glass. He said that if this glass fell down it could break for good unlike job which he likened to a rubber ball; it falls and then bounces back. Family is in that once it is affected the person changes all of sudden in terms of character and even health. When family is affected our spirits also become affected at that instance and that means stress and depression.

Love

At the centre of the family is love. Love goes beyond the surface definition of physical attraction that draws us to our partners; the heart skipping a beat tale tales. I should state here clearly that one of the most fundamental pillars in God’s government is love. Christ instructed us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves, His point was that that should be the greatest commandment ever given to humanity. Love for our children. Love for our spouses. Love for our partners should be what we strive to grow in our hearts every day. This love becomes a very strong binding force in the family and once it exists, it means an understanding between all parties in the family and that is what motivates us to live.

Before we decide to get married, among the things to look at is the attraction to our partner- though it should not be the number one factor to look at. Without the attraction, understanding between the husband and wife becomes very challenging. A family that needs to be a type of heaven on earth becomes a hell within the living. The wife and husband are always in constant conflict even over small trivial matters and the path threaded leads young lovely families downstream.

The wife.

The wife is supposed is supposed to be a person of noble character. She is the first contact with the new born children and hence becomes very crucial part in developing the required good Christly character to guide them all their days. The wife should be submissive to the husband, she should be a humble person and ready to compromise in extreme cases for the success of the family. She is a helper to the husband in togetherness to build the family that God hath bestowed unto them. A wife is supposed to be a strong person to give moral, psychological and physical support to the husband in times of need.

A wife is a very strong pillar in the development of a family. The wife is the driver of the family and hence is needed to be tactful; she should be disciplined as a good example to the young children and at the same time a motivation to the husband. Her husband is glad of her and always willing to go home to the beautiful setting of the family. A beautiful family creates very good memories to be cherished by the husband, wife and children.

The husband

The husband is the pillar of the family. He is a type of Christly priest in the family. The husband is a cornerstone of the family and makes sure the family is ok and well catered for. Husbands should love their wives with diligence and give them honor for indeed they are vessels of honor. A husband is there to motivate and support the wife in the parenting and ministering to the young ones and molding them to be of good character according to what Christ and society expects of them. Husbands should appreciate their wives and offer a protective and warm shoulder to lean on in their lowest moments.

Husbands are to create very homely lovely and warm environments for the family setting. Families are a very dear to our God in heaven; Christ always had compassion to the children, husbands and wives in need of his redeeming power for He knew what family meant to the people. Husbands are to be role models to the young ones, a support and provider to the family so that there is no suffering among the family members. Once these settings are set, the other family members always look forward to meeting and sharing in the family dinner and devotion tables. Beautiful families create memories.

By Geoffrey Ndege, Copyright @ 2015.