Remember Always That We are All Dispensable.
A friend looked out of the window and saw a woman almost the same age as her mother and wondered in his head what the death of that woman would mean to him as an individual. The conclusion of this whole thought process ended up with one singular point; it would mean very little to him.
But what if it was his mother who passed away? He realized of course that it would affect him a great deal. The point being that even if this other stranger woman he was looking at were to come and be his mother, it would still make little difference.
Could this then mean that the mother becomes indispensable at this point. Nay. Death in itself revokes that idea and confirms to us that she is indeed dispensable. The very reason some children have stepmothers. It is the only fact that our mothers bore us that doesn’t change.
A deeper look at the case of a boyfriend and girlfriend or even a husband and wife enlighten us further. These are people who stay for some lengthy time tightly ‘knit’ together with the prospect of never separating. At some point in the relationship between these two parties, the aspect of being dispensable looks so unreal until it actually happens.
When it does finally unfold to them that we are somehow somewhat dispensable, they wonder how they remained deaf and blind of this fact for a long time. It is the same all over from where we work to where we live to as far as the position society bestows upon us.
It is crucial to remember that we are as important as we are relevant at any point in time. The moment we lose our relevance, we can be quickly replaced in a flash of a second. The problem with this is that more often than not we are not prepared for this eventuality.
I remember a case of a female friend who broke up with her boyfriend and then lived in denial as though it did not happen. She came to me and sounded as though in a truancy. She kept telling me that I tell her she was dreaming and that it had not actually happened.
And that is what exactly I could not do. On the flipside, I kept telling her that it had happened for real. She then often gave me that look as though I had become a chameleon. On the long run, she was glad I took the position I took of making it sink in her head that they had actually broken up.
She surprised me later when she said that she would never love another man with all her heart again. I pitied her deep inside of me. She didn’t understand the simple fact that we are all dispensable in this life as some point in time. Sometimes not once, but hell lots of time.
Whereas that is the fact, it in no way means that we should not do our best. Suppose you get employed and are cognizant of the fact that you can be fired any time. Does it mean that you joke around and carelessly do your work?
Nay, you still put in your best effort so that even if you were to be fired, you don’t end up hastening the whole process yourself and turn out to be your worst enemy. In as much as we are to live with the fact that we are dispensable at the back of our heads, we should not do so ignorantly and end up missing the joy of the present or else we will become legalists.
When you enter a relationship know that that is a risk you take. The same should be said of a marriage in as much as we have the vows to keep them under check.
More often that not, those vows have been broken a million times and that simply confirms that not even the fear of solemnity can change the fact that we can be replaced at any time. Yet that is the simple fact why we should put our best foot forward.
All said and done, after we have been dispensed, what legacy do we leave behind. Do we leave and every other worker becomes glad we left because we had become a thorn in the fresh ore we will leave and everybody will be reminded to be the best there is like you or me before them?
At the end of the day, it boils down to the choices we make and how we understand the fact that we are all indeed dispensable.